Sunday, February 26, 2017

RIP Chez Pazienza

Yesterday one of my personal writing heroes passed away suddenly at the age of 47.  Chez Pazienza was a writer, a TV producer and podcaster who I considered a friend. Details of his passing have not been released as of this writing, but it doesn't really matter. We lost a singular voice who could speak passionately about politics, music, movies, beer, food, you name it.

I don't remember how I came across Chez to begin with. I think that it was at his blog Deus Ex Malcontent or maybe Twitter. This was probably 2010 or 11. Chez's writing style grabbed me and I immediately purchased his autobiography Dead Star Twilight. Still to this day one of my favorite books.

The man had demons. He fought those. He was so brutally honest about his mistakes whether it be failed relationships, drug addiction, screwing up career opportunities, he never flinched from his truth or his reflection. 

When he started podcasting with his friend Bob Cesca, (also someone I deeply admire), I was hooked. Those guys were me. They cursed, they talked in depth about politics, movies, music and life. I was happy to support them.

When Chez, Bob and Ben Cohen started the Daily Banter, I was immediately on board as a reader.  I was also fortunate enough to be accepted as a guest writer by Ben, Bob and Chez. This brings me to one of my favorite personal memories of Chez.

Chez and I had a difference of opinion on a teen aged boy who had a threesome with two adult female teachers. Both of our opinions were published at the Banter.  We had an email and text exchange and finally a brief phone call. He could not have been kinder. I will always be thankful for his advice and encouragement.

The last few years, Chez seemed to find happiness with his fiancee, Taryn. He positively glowed when he wrote or talked about her.

The only people he loved more than Taryn were his daughters Inara and Madison. He wrote voluminously about Inara. Another thing we had in common, we have daughters almost exactly the same ages.

I'm going to miss Chez's passion, his acerbic wit, his insight. He truly spoke to me like few others have.

My sincerest condolences to Taryn, Chez's daughters Maddie and Inara, his parents and all those who knew and loved him.

RIP my friend, I hope in the end you found peace.